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A friend made a comment to me the other day that her and her husband just have to have a practical marriage, after all they have kids.  She was mainly referring to their anniversary and said it wasn’t worth putting time into that one day of the year because it wasn’t practical. 

Personally I was appalled.  This isn’t the first time I have heard her talk about her marriage like this.  They believe that their marriage should take a back seat until their  four kids are raised.  Practicality apparently.  I have to say, to each his own, I understand this but I’m not so sure about it.

Call us selfish, but having already had a marriage that didn’t end well I don’t want to be practical.  Life is too short.  Sure, having kids means you have to bend a bit and think outside the box but I will not put my marriage on the back burner for Rebecca or any other future kids we have.  Our marriage means too much to us to do that.  We fell in love for a reason and I don’t want to take advantage of that fact.  I don’t want to assume it will just sustain on the fact that we said “I do.” 

We have goals as a couple of things we want to accomplish in our life outside of just children.  I don’t see anything wrong with this.  I don’t want to have the same dinner every Tuesday night and the same date night  once a month ending in boring sex.  I’m not saying we go cliff diving for every date night but I’m saying throw practical out of the window and have sex in your car in the parking lot of the restaurant on your anniversary, even if it means doing so in a mini-van. I’m saying get dressed up and flirt at dinner with your spouse, jump in the car and just drive for a while.  Throw some spontaneity in your marriage and avoid practical.