We often have this problem when we go out with my Husband’s family of screen time at the dinner table. We don’t get together often, birthday’s and other general celebrations. But the other children (3 and under) are plopped into a high chair and immediately handed an Ipad with their favorite show turned on. My poor neglected infant and, now 14-year-old, are not allowed such devices at the dinner table. Even my Husband and I have a no phone rule while eating. Home or otherwise. I sit in my chair and I won’t lie, I judge the crap out of my in-laws. I’m pretty open-minded about other parenting but this is one I just can’t get past. Am I crazy?
My 14-year-old learned how to act in a restaurant by sitting correctly, not wandering with food, not having a device other than the provided crayon and paper and if she acted up, I hauled her ass out to the parking lot to have her pull her shit together and not ruin everyone else’s meal. We sat as a family and played tic-tac-toe or I spy and also managed conversation together. I’m not saying it was always perfect but she learned how to be a human and have conversation. I would like for Cora to learn the same thing.
The only thing I see in my in-laws kiddo’s is the inability to interact with others in public. I know for a fact this is their normal at home procedure-eating in front of the TV. Don’t even get me started on how I feel this creates eating issues.
Why are we as a society so quick to shut our kids up or stick them in a corner to be entertained?
Call me crazy, but we are following the recommendation of not allowing our child electronics, technology, TV, or whatever till the age of 2. I don’t turn on Disney, Baby TV or anything else for Cora and we don’t have apps downloaded on our phone for her enjoyment. Yes, our TV is on in the background when we are home but we normally don’t sit down to watch our shows till after she is in bed.
Isn’t the world around her enough? How much do you allow your children? Are you the family I’m judging at the restaurant?