Thirty days from today, the Hubs and I will board a plane, alone, and head to Jamaica. We will leave behind our child for the first time and not just for a few days but for 6 nights and 7 days. My sister will be in charge of the baby and the dog. Managing themselves to get to and from daycare and work. Tackling a way to get everyone fed, bathed and to bed at a reasonable time. Fingers crossed the baby will try sleeping through the night for her…..
I mean, my anxiety level over this is a bit high right now.
People have asked how I could possibly leave my child for that long for the first time. Out of country, no less. I bite my tongue.
Because what is waiting on that island is what I need right now. What my husband needs right now is there. What our marriage needs right now is there. Nights where I can drink and not worry about how much. I can pass out in bed and no worry about the baby monitor. Not worry about when she will wake. I will not be tethered to her schedule but merely to my own. I can eat as I please. We can turn off our phones. Unplug. Someone else will make my bed and food. We can have all the sex, whenever we want. Did I mention the sleep? Oh, and the warmth is an added bonus too.
Before baby arrived the Hubs and I always took Rebecca on one family vacation a year and then him and I took one tropical vaca a year. We love to travel. Cora has messed up that schedule a bit and we are determined to get back on schedule. We need this time to invest in our marriage. Sure, we could do that in a hotel room a few cities over for a night or two but that isn’t enough. Life is going faster. A baby kinda takes up space and time. Sure, we do date nights but sometimes you need more than that to reconnect.
No, our marriage is not in trouble but as the winter has settled on us, we find ourselves not carving out as much time together. There are no evenings on the back porch talking or long walks with the baby and dog to chat. Instead we are huddled on the couch discussing schedules for the holidays. Time slides, things slide, and we are two ships passing in the night as plow season has started as well.
So while people turn their noses up to our travel arrangements, we call it investing in our marriage. Time away to unplug and focus on just us. We are firm believers that the better our marriage is the better we are as parents. We will miss our little one and I will worry about her endlessly but there is a beach, with a drink, and a lounge chair waiting for each of us. Count me in.
What do you do to invest in your marriage?