I haven’t made it a secret that I’m just not in to the whole mommy group thing. Mainly because I can’t find one and my kiddo hates people. However a friend on FB posted that she was looking to start a mommy group or needed someone to just hang out with because she is a SAHM of three kids. Our husband’s were deployed together and they come to a lot of our parties. The hubs and I have gone to dinner with them a few times but aside from that, the men are more friends. However, I was all for spending some outside of the house time together to entertain our kids! So we started a mommy group of two:)
Our first meet-up was at a kids gym and the place is genius. Our kids didn’t play together but that’s okay. They ran around and wore themselves down. It was nice to get out of the house on a Monday in the dead of winter.
We have since had a couple more meet-ups and I see some problems arising that I feared would. She talks. A lot. Which is fine, except it is about their marriage and how bad it is. Constantly. In front of the kids. I mean, I should be getting paid a therapists rate. I have tried changing the subject but other subjects have become a problem and all of this is stuff I don’t find appropriate to be said in front of kids. I’m beginning to think she has one topic and that is anything that is filled with drama. Can we just talk about teething for a minute instead? Because fuck teething.
Through out these meet-ups, Cora and her 2 1/2 year old are slowly playing together a bit more but we do have the problem that her daughter is a bit more drama filled and lacks some manners. (Her mamma used these words before I did!) You get that with any age group and it is a good learning time but if mamma isn’t using it for a teaching moment then…it becomes an issue. Especially when my kid is getting the brunt end of the screaming, hitting, non toy sharing.
Which leads me to yesterday where I felt that neither Cora or I wanted to go hang out with them. We just went to their house to play and she stayed glued to my lap and my ears were burning on the topics at hand. We skipped out early and headed for Panera instead.
I feel for this woman in her marriage, I do. We all need someone to talk with but I think there is a time and a place. I would be much more apt to letting her vent if it were over a glass of wine without little ears present. It seems each meet-up is going downhill a bit more and I’m wondering where and when the line should be drawn? Or is this just normal in a mommy group of two? I don’t think I’ll ever get the hang of this mommy world stuff.