Parenting: It gets easier

It is getting easier, this parenting thing.  We are having more good days than bad.  Quieter nights, less teething, eating better, more understanding and more independence in our household.  I don’t second guess myself as much.  All of this makes for a happier and calmer mamma.  I feel like we are getting somewhere.

As we are hitting the 19 month mark (I swear I don’t use months anymore IRL) I feel like we are rounding a serious corner.  Last summer was hard to fully enjoy with a wee one that wasn’t as mobile.  We had to be ultra careful about sun, heat and where the baby was crawling to.  Hell, the summer before that, I was pregnant and that was hard to enjoy anything.  So here we are in a place where she can run around the yard, chase the dog, get in and out of her little pool and I can water the flowers without panic.  We can explore together, play games and she doesn’t get bored at all.  The little energizer bunny just keeps going.

I feel like it is okay to put my feet up, sit back and enjoy those little moments.

Sure we have our toddler fits, which I just walk away from and she gets bored quickly and comes to get me.  Sure she throws a shit load of food on the floor for the dog but damn, she is finally eating her fruits and veges (still no meat) like it is her job. Sure there are days where I just need her to lay down for her nap already because I can’t keep up. I seriously do not have my shit together a lot of days.

BUT…

She talks or signs and answers me when I ask a question so that eliminates a ton of frustration on both our parts.  When she doesn’t know a word she tries so hard to get us to understand. Can I just say how nice it is to have her be able to follow directions? Wait here with the dog so I can grab your bag.  Go get your coat.  Put that in the trash.  She loves to have something to do!  She soaks up everything.  A circle! Yes, we have that down.  What is this? A square! Cool! Half our A,B,S’s…sure! She learns something new everyday and that is pretty cool to watch.

I’m saying, it gets easier.  We are out of the baby phase and are certainly on to the next and I can tell you, I’m grateful.  Sure, the baby phase is sweet and fun but it can be exhausting and it is HARD.  I have held newborn babies lately and was happy to hand them back, no nagging feeling deep down.  Instead I was happy to walk away and my kid just walked next to me.  I have friends who would marinade in that baby phase for life if they could and I say more power to ya!  Us mammas are all built differently!

The older Cora gets though, the more people question us about a second.  My doc brought it up at my yearly appointment last week.  However, we have put the topic away until our January trip. (Aruba!)  Why then? Just a deadline in time. A time when my head will be clear enough to be able to have that conversation revisited with my husband.  I am soaking this up. I’m not ready for the newborn phase again.  I don’t know if or when I will be but right now isn’t it.

How’s the toddler phase in your household?

6 thoughts on “Parenting: It gets easier

  1. All of this is so true! The understanding thing is a game changer. It actually can truly amaze me on how much they can understand at such a young age even if they can’t speak the words themselves. I’m glad that things are starting to slow down and get easier for you guys. Even if she likes to play hooky from daycare on occasion and mama has to miss work lol.

    ps: thanks to your inspiration, we went out and bought flashcards for the H-man. He still is quite limited in his vocabulary but we have a lot of fun playing with the cards so I know he will eventually get there!

    1. Yay! A that is so good to hear. I don’t know what it is about those things but kids love them. He will get there. You’ll look back one day and wonder why you wanted him to talk so damn much:)

  2. Well I try to keep him off the couch and from giving me hugs from behind my back with slobber kisses. He does sleep through the night only a few accidents here and there. One good thing he doesn’t talk back and I can send him outside to play!! Notch is such a fun boy!!! LOL

  3. Every new phase, I’m like “I love this age!” but I do miss having a little baby. I was just looking at E’s pictures from 6-8 months and my heart melted. Luckily, I don’t have to wait long. 5 months pregnant with our second : )
    I just ordered flash cards from reading the comments above. E’s vocab has gone from non-existent to exploding in the past month. It’s like he all of a sudden found a love of books and wants us to read to him the same 5 books over and over again. It’s fine with me because we have been trying to read to him for a long time and he was never interested. We are doing Spanish primarily though, so his major big board books are in Spanish. Just ordered a set of Spanish flashcards too, hopefully he’ll like those as well!
    I’m so happy with our current schedule. I really really love working part-time. I love getting to spend more time with him and feel like I’m an active participant in my life, rather than someone who just lives for the weekend. Yesterday, I was home with E, and it was one of those rough days where I was just SO glad that I was coming to work today! Haha. Parenting is definitely tough and exhausting, and it’s one of the many reasons I’m so glad to have so much family help. I feel very lucky in that regard.

    1. Oh my goodness I feel like we need to catch up!!! 5 months pregnant! Congrats! I’m so happy for you guys!
      I love that you are teaching E Spanish primarily. It is amazing how easy they pick up two languages. I’m glad his vocab is expanding! It makes life so much easier:) It is a fun age that’s for sure.
      Working part time is a happy balance for us as well. It is nice to have those adult days but yes, you aren’t just living for the weekend. It is the best of both worlds!

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