I think one of the main things a mother will say that her children taught her is patience. I couldn’t agree with this more. I have never spent so much time telling myself to stop, breathe, wait, and have patience. This moment shall pass, we will get to where we are headed, don’t explode, give her a moment.
I have a pretty easy toddler but it doesn’t mean we don’t have our moments. Our moments of trying to get out the door, of mamma just needing to pee, of dinner on the stove or cleaning needing to be accomplished. She is hanging on a leg, asking me to sit and play with her, requiring a cup of water or a snack.
For the love of God child can you just please get in your car seat and not literally stop and smell the flowers along the way?
But then I remember she is still new to this world. She doesn’t understand the rush, she needs a moment to have a tantrum because learning shoes is tough, she wants to stop me to discuss the poopy she did in the potty earlier in the day, she needs to inspect the flowers that spring is slowly trying to produce and is that a bug? Better follow it somewhere. All these things I quickly do myself, quickly glance at, shove feelings down to be dealt with later, and don’t give a second thought about. She is discovering the world around her, learning and processing it all.
Therefore, she gives me patience. She teaches me daily to take a step back, listen, feel, and pay attention to all the little details of life. It is such a cliché what kids can do for us but a cliché that many of us take for granted. Even find down right annoying because dude I can’t fetch you a 4th blanket because the water is boiling over on the stove.
It isn’t always possible, but giving her the extra time and space has been a game changer. The art of letting go a bit and letting her, not take charge, but lead at times, has taught me more than I thought it could.
What has your toddler taught you lately?